Monday, February 23, 2015

Getting Rid of Unnecessary Negative Thoughts

"We are shaped by our thoughts; 
we become what we think.
When the mind is pure,
joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."

-Buddha

Have you ever put very much thought into your thoughts?  What we think can truly affect our actions, lifestyles and future choices.  Often our thoughts get clouded with negativity, focusing on unfortunate circumstances or other troubling things.  The real issue with negative thinking is something called negative scripting...(continued below)





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It is basically when you imagine a scenario, conversation, etc. and play it out in your head in a negative way.  In other words, you are imagining a depressing or frustrating scene that hasn't actually happened.  Sometimes this happens when you are thinking about how to confront someone with a series issue, you play it out in your head and imagine the worst based on past conversations.  By doing this you are already assuming the worst of someone and typically go into the confrontation already upset by something that hasn't even happened making the situation worse than it would have been.  Sometimes negative scripting happens when you are playing out a made up movie in your mind where potentially sad or difficult things happen to you.  All of these thoughts influence your actions and happiness.  When sadness and anger fill your thoughts, you are more prone to those emotions.  On the contrary, when you are positive and count your blessing you will see more blessings in your life and have more joy.  It is difficult to never think negative things, especially when difficult things happen to us; however, it is possible to control thoughts of negative scripting.  Work on controlling those thoughts and replace them with thoughts of your blessings or ideas of how your dreams will be achieved.  Let happiness consume your mind.

Monday, February 16, 2015

#Team No Sleep + Fevrie Giveaway

"The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep, 
and miles to go before I sleep."

-Robert Frost

One of the few things I wish I had more of in my life is time.  More hours in a day, more days in a year, just more time to be able to accomplish everything I want during this short life.  Sometimes I think if I had more time, I would get at least ten different degrees and have careers as a doctor, lawyer, teacher and even a farmer.  Even time to travel, relax, play, explore and just see everything this life has to offer.  My desire for more time has made sleep a necessary evil for me.  (Continue reading below + Fevrie giftcard giveaway and discount code...)




Saturday, February 14, 2015

Happy Valentines Day

"I know that love is just a shout into the void,
and that oblivion is inevitable, 
and that we're all doomed
and that there will come a day when all our labor
 has been returned to dust,
and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we'll ever have,
and I am in love with you." 

-John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

When I was little, Valentine's Day was one of my favorite things to celebrate in elementary school.  I mean, it revolves around candy, making cards and creating "mailboxes", need I say more?  After elementary school, the holiday just lost all of it's glamour for me.  Not because I was companionless, but it because I deemed it illogical.  It seemed like a shallow, corporate candy business cash holiday where couples could get away with only doing outrageous, sweet things just once a year and got kudos for being a thoughtful partner for the entire year.  (Continue reading below...)



Monday, February 9, 2015

Maui Getaway + List of Maui Recommendations

"Little darling, I feel that ice is slowly melting
Little darling, it seems like years since it's been clear
Here comes the sun, here comes the sun
And I say it's all right"

-The Beatles, Here Comes the Sun


Do you ever need to just get away from it all?  I reached that point this month!  I had too many things on my plate and working seven days a week was really getting to me; so I decided to join my parents and brother in Maui on a last minute trip!  The sunshine and time to relax was exactly what I needed to clear my head and unwind a little.  My happy tip for the day is to remember to take the time for a vacation.  Even if you can't afford or don't have the time for an elaborate trip, even a weekend trip to a place within driving distance can be a great getaway.  (Continue reading below + a list of my Maui recommendations...)


Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Friday, January 30, 2015

Tender Hearts in Paradise

"Paradise was made for tender hearts; 
hell, for loveless hearts."

-Voltaire

Part of this life is experiencing pain and heart break, but have you ever reached a point where you just want to shut everything off for awhile?  When I was a child, I suppose I would have what you call a tender heart; children more often possess this characteristic than adults.  I was not afraid to cry, happy to help other people and quick to love.  Over the years I slowly started to harden; I was ready to assume the worst in others and cried only a few times a year.  I was gradually becoming less emotionally connected to the world and people around me.  I don't know if I even completely realized that I had become less selfless and more indifferent.  After about two years, (not bad years, just no major highs or lows) I realized I was craving something more.  (Continue reading below...)


Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Reasons of the Heart

"Le coeur a ses raisons 
que la raison ne connait point"

-Blaise Pascal

"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing," is a rough English translation of the philosopher Pascal's words above.  Life is often expected to be straight forward with little opportunity for purpose outside of our own endeavors to survive.  For some, a full life might be to walk this straight line, but others yearn for the opportunities to be added upon, even if it means the road is more difficult.  (Continued below...)