“If you can’t say something nice,
don’t say nothing at all.”
-Thumper, Disney’s Bambi
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7 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD NEVER ASK A PREGNANT WOMAN
It’s okay to be inquisitive, but there are certain questions I don’t really want to hear
#1 Q. Are you having twins?
A. Do I look like I’m having twins?! Apparently I do, or you wouldn’t have asked. If I am having multiples, I will offer up that information. Otherwise, please assume I am not.
#2 Q. Are you happy it’s a boy/girl?
A. Yes, of course we are happy! Even if there is a couple out there who is a little disappointed, would you want to hear the response, “no, we are totally bummed”?!
#3 Q. Were you trying?
A. Unless you are a close friend or family member, or are currently pregnant, this is a weird question to ask. By answering yes, I feel like I’m giving out my sexual history. “Yes, we we’ve been like bunnies the last few months.” By answering no, I feel like I’m saying my child is a mistake. “No, it was unwanted.” Neither answer is super great. The important thing is I am pregnant, and regardless of how it it happened, my child is very loved and wanted!
#4 Q. Are you planning on breastfeeding?
A. I don’t mind this question from close friends/family/nurse/doctor, especially if they have some good advice to offer. However, I really don’t like answering this question to strangers, plus I don’t really want to get down to the nitty gritty details about my breasts with someone I don’t know!
#5 Q. How are you feeling? (Every time you see me.)
A. I’m pregnant, I feel awful. I’m tired, nauseous, achy, my back hurts…let’s be honest, everything hurts! I hate answering this question hourly/daily/weekly to the same people. I feel I sound like negative Nelly, so please don’t ask this question every time you see me unless you are offering to help me in some way or it’s your first time seeing me pregnant. Your looks of pity really don’t make me feel better, and not thinking about it offers more relief than sympathetic sighs.
#6 Q. Are you going to deliver naturally/are you going to get an epidural?
A. Again, I don’t mind this if we are close friends/family. However, with acquaintances and strangers, here are the two scenarios…I say “I’m doing a natural birth” and people usually reply that I’m crazy or simply with “why”? None of your answers satisfy them. It’s not a judgement of those who had epidurals, it’s a personal decision. If I say, “I’m getting an epidural” then people reply with a look of relief (like they expected you to be weak), or a look of judgement (if they think a natural birth is better), or horror stories about both natural births or epidurals.
#7 Q. You look like you are ready to pop! When are you due?
A. It’s not the “when are you due” part that I mind, that’s a normal question. It’s prefacing it with some phrase like, “you are getting so big”! This usually gets asked well before the baby is due. It’s embarrassing to answer that you still have months left. It makes me feel fat and the dread of getting larger looms over me more than it already was. So you can ask when I’m due, but please don’t preface the question with a statement that makes me feel large. After I answer, then you can decide what comments are appropriate to make.